Enabling and Co-dependency
I have a 16 year old son who is addicted to marijuana. He has been using since grade 9 and is now in grade 11. He is a chronic user through the day -before school and before he goes to sleep. I recently had the police charge him with assault against me when my husband and I tried to throw out his marijuana and bong that we found in his bedroom. He became very violent and pushed me and punched 2 doors. This was October and the courts have now ordered him to get anger management counselling and substance abuse. He is still using and I feel that the counselling will not be enough. I feel he needs to be in detox and then rehab for a period of time. His father is an alcoholic who is not drinking at the moment but has never had counselling himself and my son has a lot of anger issues towards his dad for times when he was drunk and mean. My son now has anger towards me for having him charged. He rebels a lot, doesn't seem to try at all in school and failed 3 subjects last semester. All he seems to care about is the marijuana. How can I truly help him? He is so unhappy and angry most of the time. Any suggestions? I have found more marijuana in his bedroom recently. He just doesn't care what we think. I love my son and am worried beyond belief.