My preferred coaching & counseling techniques are a blend of approaches suited to identifying and working directly with specific neural networks.
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Since we all have our own unique ways of seeing the world, ourselves, and other people it's best for a therapist to have a toolbox of skills and interventions. Equipped with appropriate tools, the therapist and client can devise a plan best suited for the person and their issues. I have a friend who likes to say ..."If all you have is a hammer, then everything begins to look like a nail."
Below are summaries of the primary approaches I draw from in creating individualized treatment plans. They are all suited to the creation of efficient and effective changes in the neural networks of the Internet of the Mind - My map of the world. I do not intend to go into the theory of each approach but simply to outline a summary of them.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a counseling technique deals with limiting beliefs. Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck are widely known as the pioneers of CBT. They have their own variations in the theory and practice of CBT.
Again it is not my intent to go into the theory of CBT, but to simply introduce you to the basics and provide some insight into how it may apply to changing our neural pathways.
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Gestalt Psychology presupposes that people are born with the resources and ability to enjoy rewarding contact with others, and lead a satisfying and creative life.
However, often during childhood...and sometimes later...something interrupts normal developmental processes and the person gets stuck in fixed patterns and beliefs about themselves that get in the way.
Gestalt aims to investigate and uncover how these patterns (neural networks) are still active and holding the person back or stopping them from getting what they want from life. The "Father of Gestalt Therapy" was Frederick "Fritz" Perls.
Family Systems Theory has generated many counseling techniques for understanding and healing children of less-than-nurturing families - whether they be adult-children or children currently living in such families.
The lessons learned in the incredible amount of data gathered through research done on families of alcoholism has created a wealth of interventions and knowledge. Because of this whole families are now recovering to stop the cycles of shame and abandonment from being passed on to the next generation.
The family is the original group from which people learn patterns of behavior (neural networks) which they re-enact in other groups later in life. Individuals are programmed with family rules, roles, behaviors, and beliefs that form their original neural networks.
Pioneered by "The Mother of Family Therapy" - Virginia Satir - Family systems therapy focuses on becoming conscious of subconscious dysfunctional patterns and learning new ones to improve a person's life and relationships.
There is no shortage of arguments about the nature of hypnosis, especially as a counseling technique. These debates range from the position that there is no such thing as hypnosis to it's all hypnosis.
From my own studies and experiences I take these positions; that no one can be "hypnotized" unless they allow it and, indeed, actively participate in the process and that pretty much everything we learn is through a hypnotic process.
Suffice it to say that hypnotherapy involves "getting beyond the radar" of ones conscious mind and into the subconscious mind (SCM). Hypnosis is used as a tool in therapy and is not usually experienced as one might imagine.
For example, a person is usually fully aware of the process even though the subconscious mind is in the forefront. Once there, no changes can be made that do not sound acceptable to the SCM.
If a suggestion is given, either directly or indirectly - through the use of metaphor - which does not fit the value system of the participant it will simply not be accepted.
My particular method of Hypnotherapy is Ericksonian which was the style created by the master hypnotherapist Milton Erickson. He was widely considered to be the one of the best therapists of all time.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is literally a storehouse of extremely effective counseling techniques. NLP was created in the early seventies by John Grinder, a linguist and Richard Bandler, a computer programmer. Bandler and Grinder believed that if one person could do something then anyone could learn to do it through the use of "modeling".
Modeling is breaking a behavior down to its smallest elements, learning them, and then recreating the pattern by systematically and congruently emulating those elements. In essence, the modeler "becomes" the person being modeled.
Bandler and Grinder developed a whole host of interventions through the modeling of Perls, Satir, and Erickson. They spent time with each other these master's, broke down their patterns and recreated many of their results. Their skills with linguistics and computer programming aided them greatly in this process.
NLP is growing and has come a long way, but has yet to achieve the full-fledged status as a stand alone field of practice. Bandler once said that the growth and development of NLP has "...left a multitude of interventions is its wake".
Transactional Analysis (TA) is a counseling technique that deals with ego-states and the role these ego-states play in how we interact with each other and the world in general. Ego-states are the equivalent of what we refer to as neural networks.
In TA theory, each person has three ego-states (or neural networks), which are separate and distinct sources of behavior: the Parent ego-state, the Adult ego-state, and the Child ego-state.
A person can "activate" only one ego-state at a time which means they act according to the beliefs, feelings, and behaviors of that ego-state. Any person who has experienced "losing it" in an argument with their spouse can attest to what it feels like to be in the "angry child" state if they feel childish after the fight is over.
Inner Child Therapy evolved from Transactional Analysis, NLP, and Family Systems Therapy. In TA the Inner Child was referred to as the Adapted Child, the Natural Child, and the Little Professor.
All of these terms are metaphors for what has come to be known as various fragmented parts of our self. The terms "fragmented parts" and "self" are also metaphors or symbols we use to talk about something inside of us that we cannot see - i.e., our neural networks.
Ego-State Therapy evolved from psychoanalytic theory and the practice of hypnotherapy. Ego-State Therapy is a counseling technique that was pioneered by husband and wife duo, John and Helen Watkins, in the seventies and eighties.
It's an ideal form of hypnotherapy that allows work to be done directly with neural networks while in an hypnotic state. Lasting changes often take place on a deep level.
Parts Integration Work, also known as Parts Work, is a counseling technique that came out of the NLP interventions that were created through modeling of Fritz Perls and Virginia Satir.
Closely related to Ego-State Therapy, the term "Parts" is a metaphor for various neural networks that are also referred to as fragmented parts of of the core self.
Virginia Satir used the concept of parts to work on roles in the family and held an occasional "Parts Party" in family sessions.
By Don Carter