At a crossroad

I have been with my fiancee for over three years. He suffers from what seems like depression and add although he won't receive help so none of it is diagnosed or treated. There is no more room in my life for excuses, and I can't go on like this to serve my own co dependency. D day is coming soon. Maybe today. I can't go on fixing all of his problems. It's making me depressed and its not fair to him, when he could have a life.

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Apr 02, 2011
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To: At a Crossroad
by: Angie Carter

Thanks for posting a little bit of what's happening with you. It is unfortunate when someone we care about has an issue that is hampering or hurting the relationship and they will not do anything to address it.
You are right, it's not fair to you, nor to him. But, we cannot make someone take care of themselves, or seek help if they need it. Everyone has free will and they can choose to stay stuck or work on the issue.
The good news is that you don't have to stay stuck! I encourage you to set boundaries and really explore what is acceptable or unacceptable in your life.
If you find yourself staaaaaaaying in a relationship even after you have a feeling it is not healthy for you and nothing has changed, I encourage you to seek help for yourself. Codependency can be difficult at times to face and then transition into recovery.
Good Luck!
Angie C.

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