At a Crossroad

I have been with my fiancee for over three years. He suffers from what seems like depression and ADD although he won't receive help so none of it is diagnosed or treated. There is no more room in my life for excuses, and I can't go on like this to serve my own codependency. D-day is coming soon. Maybe today. I can't go on fixing all of his problems. It's making me depressed and its not fair to him, when he could have a life.

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Mar 06, 2011
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Ditto!
by: Anonymous

I agree...it is the best thing you can do when a partner refuses to respect you and your boundaries. We teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate.

But if you have the addiction of codependency then you may find it very difficult to do what you know you must do. If that happens please understand that there is a way out -- Recovery through a 12-step group, therapy, church groups and many other places.

Take care,
Don

Feb 28, 2011
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thinking of yourself
by: Anonymous

All I want to say is that it's important to think of yourself in a situation like you are in.

I think you know you have to get out of your relationship, but taking that step is hard. Maybe you feel that he won't be ok, and that somehow it's your responsibility to help him. Please believe me each one of us is responsible for how we face life. God gives us a free will to make decisions, BUT asking God to guide us is the smartest thing we can do. It is not selfish to want to do what is best for you even it you think you are hurting someone else.

I encourage you to do what you know you need to do!

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