Abruptly ended very close relationship

by In-Shock
(Ohio)

There was no arguing, not anything but words of commitment and love for about 2 years then abruptly out of the blue my partner call, almost in between asking me to come over (didn't live together) and go to the store with them anyway they called me one morning and said "I don't love you the way you love me".

That was it - no reasons, no discussion nothing, and NOTHING substantial since, except one other email that said hope we can be friends at some point. I responded to that one by saying "Look I meant everything I said so it's going to take a LONG time before I consider being friends." They sent a couple random emails since (nothing important) UNTIL I sent their "house key" back, to which they said they got an emotional lump in throat. After that now NOTHING and we used to communicate ABOUT EVERYTHING.

Do you think the "key" made them realize what they had really done and that's why no communication now? Like perhaps they did still love me but don't know how to turn back? This person was on some meds and has mother issues that could never be broken and the mother tears down and belittles constantly, and she always used the "I'm all alone and sick" thing to keep my partner tied in. She was not some invalid or that sick either only the threat of what might come. Do you think both sides were too much and my partner had to choose?

It's really got me stuck in grief and pain and this is over 3 months - I am still in total shock and very emotionally broken. I waited 7 years to meet someone and took my time getting to know this person so it's not like I take relationships lightly or trust lightly - so I am really hurting and stuck with no closure - just dumbfounded and in shock.

Thank you all for being here at least for the 20 minutes this took I could stop wandering around the house blindly.