abandonment issues with child

I have just recently finished a program for addictions and having trouble connecting with my son and don't know what to do. I am learning new parenting skills but would like to know what else I can do. I need help.

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Jan 11, 2011
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Just Listen
by: Mr Recovery

Just be a listener. Encourage in small ways for your son to talk to you. And just listen and nod and give encouragement. Do not offer advice or try to tell him what to do. Just be a sounding board for him to bounce his ideas off from and figure out for himself.

This is what most people need to figure out their feelings and problems. Be a good listener and just be there for him.

Jan 07, 2011
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by: Don Carter

Hello & Welcome!

Rebuilding lives and relationships is hard work and one must first of all focus on self. Recovery is a program of attraction, not promotion. Those who know us well are reluctant to jump on the bandwagon when we have decided to change. Most of us have made and broke many such promises.

When it comes to kids, especially teens, anger and hurt takes a while to heal. Some teenagers feel, "Yeah...now you wanna be a dad/mom? Well too little, too late!" You can't really blame them either.

Most kids will get past that and heal up...IF they get to see you change and grow. So, your most important task right now is to keep doing the recovery thing and protect the gains you made.

Now, I have been speaking in general terms about family relationships in early recovery. If you'd care to shed a little more light on your unique situation and ask questions here please don't hesitate. Then, when you're ready you can pass it on and share your own experience, strength and Hope for others!

Take Care!
Don

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