A nagging question

by chris
(valencia)

Ok, I understand how these feelings of: shame, defectiveness, inadequacy etc… can be triggered off and how this is felt. However I still don’t quite understand what happens with this “original pain of abandonment”. Shouldn’t it subside with time and gradually get less. How is it that- as we know, this accumulates and gets worse? What causes this to grow as such? Also, when these feelings of shame, defectiveness, inadequacy etc… get triggered off, does the original pain of abandonment get triggered off too? Is the individual feeling the both at the same time when this happens? Or is this "original pain of abandonment constently being felt by the individual?

Hope someone can put me straight with this.

cheers!

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