A Chronic Enabler

(Baltimore, MD)

In my search for love at an early age (child), I have learned to be an enabler. Because situations beyond my control, I began to look for love in all the wrong places. To the point of doing things that I didn't wan to do, but doing them anyway because I was looking for love.

As a young adult I continued the behavior throughout a physical abusive marriage. Always thinking that it was going to get better, making excuses, and going along with whatever the situation, I was still being an enabler.

I've recently became aware that I an enabler to my children who are now grown. Now, I realize that I need to break the cycle. That my search for love and approval has to start with self love and approval. The only problem now is where do I start?