27 yr old brother STILL out of control
I am 23 and have a 27 year old brother. To give some background information: after he graduated high school, he did not continue education and went into the restaurant business. He did cocaine and crack cocaine for several years and is an alcholic. He has been fired from at least 8 jobs (tardiness, absenteeism, stealing $, etc.). He just moved out from my parents' house 1 year ago. Just before Christmas, he was fired (again) from a job and now cannot find any work. My parents are scared that if he can't make rent, he will have nowhere to go and he will have to move back in. He has had 2 DUIs and just recently got pulled over for speeding and has 12 pts on his record, so he is on his 3rd suspension.
My parents have bailed him out of jail, paid off drug debts, continue to drive him around, etc. I know they are enabling him. My dad is known to my mother and me as a "saint," because he never yells and is extremely forgiving. My mother is more of a tough love parent, but the two disagree on how to deal with each situation that arises. I am sure they are not immune to the wake my brother's actions leaves.
I live 4 hrs away where I go to graduate school. They do not tell me anymore about what goes on at home because they don't want to add stress and "bother me with the same old stuff." My parents have always said "he my brother has to see the light from within.. and someday he will "get it"... etc."" Needless to say, he has burned several bridges with me. We are all beyond sick of it, but yet, it still continues. I guess I am just asking for some professional advice. I've just had it and I feel so bad for my parents...
-Sleepless in OH